One of my dear friends gave me an idea which was to touch on the topic of toxic people. I said maybe at first, but the more people I talked to, it just seems to be the common theme. What I was hearing around me was a common theme So I figured why not!
Think of it this way first. Do you have someone that semi-celebrates your small victories in life? Do you have someone that when you start talking about something negative or complain they add to your complaint or your negativity without ever turning the conversation into a positive? Do you have that person that never has a good day; you ask how they are and you hear the wish I was better? Do you even have that person that you say hi to and they respond with attitude? I could go on, but I guess I better stop and just get on with it huh? What about that person that oozes the saying “misery loves company”? I bet you have a few people in mind already don’t you?
So if someone does not add value to your life (not in a monetary way), they might be toxic to you. Toxic people truly suck the life out of you. If you thought you didn’t have energy, those people can take what is left. You end up feeling more depressed then you did before that person actually came around. Please do not think that just because the person is family or you've known them for years, it does not mean that you make the exception to continuously have these individuals around you. You have the right to love those individuals at a distance. I will repeat that because I don’t want people to get this confused! You have the right to LOVE THOSE PEOPLE FROM A DISTANCE.
It does not make you a bad person. You just need to find the environment that is right for you. You have to create your surroundings, your environment, the energies you allow around you. That control is your responsibility. If you do not control that, you will hinder your own peace, stunt your personal growth and fall into a pattern of bad habits.
Yes, it is your own responsibility to not people take our joy but sometimes that is one of the hardest things to maintain. You try to stay happy and positive but guess what..........you are human. It can’t always happen. So this is why you have to be cautious of the company you keep and the conversations you’re involved in.
Let me explain something about all of this. WE ARE ALL TOXIC! Just like people are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, guess what! You can be toxic as well so you have to be wise and have that self awareness! I say this because I have been guilty of having my reasons and my seasons of being toxic because life wasn’t going my way. So please be aware of how you make others feel when you are around them. I will leave you with these words from Maya Angelou:
“I’VE LEARNED THAT PEOPLE WILL FORGET WHAT YOU SAID, PEOPLE WILL FORGET WHAT YOU DID, BUT PEOPLE WILL NEVER FORGET HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.”
L.D.A.
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